March 17, 2017

computerhackerAnd I thought yesterday was a miserable day. As I mentioned in yesterday’s post it had rained; rained a lot. I went down the basement last night around 10:00 PM to sort out some of the pictures that need reframing. Went to bed around midnight. Woke up at 5:00 AM, made a cup of coffee and hobbled back downstairs to finish up the project started yesterday. You can imagine my shock when I reached the last stair and stepped into 2 inches of ice cold water. The good news is that the shock cleared the cobwebs from my brain; at least for a short period of time. The bad news is that the basement floor is covered with 2 inches of water. The idiot who invented window wells should be locked up. Not only is the ground frozen solid but so are the drainage pipes in the window wells which leaves the water only one way to drain and that is into the basement. Peter managed to get the pipe in the window well to drain by removing as much ice as possible and pouring car window washer fluid down the pipe. At least that has stopped the water fall coming from the window. Now we wait for the clean up crew and the insurance adjuster. Isn’t life grand?

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March 16, 2017

computerhackerIt is raining outside; has been for the better part of the afternoon. Every bone in my body feels like I have been run over by a truck and I feel a rant coming on. After my doctor’s appointment today, I am ready to believe that I might be heading towards insanity. After all Albert Einstein is broadly credited with exclaiming “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results”. I have decided that a favourite pastime of doctors is to see how far they can push women like me. We are easy prey! They see a 60 something woman walk into their consultation room and they think, “How crazy can we make this one before she stops seeing me?” According to the doctors I have seen the fact that I am 60 something years of age determines immediately that my symptoms are either hysterical or menopausal. They are the crazy ones if they think that after 60 years of living my goal in life is to become “hysterical”.Finally received two appointments in the mail today for my eye surgery.  the pre-surgery appointment with the surgeon is scheduled for April 20th.  The actual Cataract surgery on my right eye is scheduled for May 16th.  If I sound a tad impatient; it has been 2 1/2 years since I was told by my optometrist that I needed emergency surgery on my right eye .  Actually that particular eye exam was rather frightening.  For someone who had always had 20/20 vision it came as a terrible shock to realize that when I covered my left eye I could not read the largest letters on the eye chart.   Since when does emergency surgery mean a waiting period of 2 1/2 years?  Hopefully once I have recovered from eye surgery I will be able to once again enjoy reading.  At this point I can no longer read more than 2 hours at a time.  My eyes just get too tired.

 

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March 5, 2017

Another day of extreme fatigue.  Will I ever get enough sleep to beat this overwhelming fatigue?   Thankfully I am able to hibernate at home without any obligations except for the occasional doctor’s appointment.

This week I hope to finish copying my mini DV’s onto my computer.  It is really quite annoying how quickly electronic devices become obsolete.  So far I have managed to copy 31 mini cassettes.  This past summer and fall I began the huge task of scanning just over 6000 slides onto my computer.  It was a tedious project but so glad it is complete.

I need to decide what I want to do with all my genealogy information.  Many years ago I attempted to put together a comprehensive genealogy of the Helena Zacharias Giesbrecht family as well as the  Helena Ens Martens family.  I am debating whether to leave it where it is; packed away in the storage room downstairs or to put it out on the internet.  I had hoped to recover some of my expenses but that seems to be a pipe dream.  Oh many are interested; interested in a free genealogy.  In fact a number of years ago I had a cousin ask me why in the world I was working on the family genealogy when in fact I was adopted and it was not really my family.   Oh well life goes on.

Maybe I will be in a better mood in the next couple of days.  I hate myself when I feel like this.

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March 4th, 2017

A quiet Saturday afternoon with temps about 3 C.  However there is a snow storm in the works for Monday and Tuesday.

Life takes many twists and turns and we can never be sure what will happen next.  This past summer I dealt with Pancreatitis; a real nasty disease.  I woke up on July 10th feeling tired.  By midmorning I had the most horrible pain in my abdomen.  Finally at 3:00 PM I could stand the pain no longer and had my husband take me to emergency.  Thankfully I only had to wait an hour before I was seen by the emergency doctor.  However he and his side kick the male nurse on duty informed me after some blood work that I was FOS.  According to my RN relatives that is what is noted in the chart of a person with constipation.  Nothing helped the pain and I was held in observation overnight.

My family doctor arrived at the hospital early Monday morning and apologized for the lack of pain control I had received in emergency.  She very quickly fixed that problem.  I was also informed at that time that I had Pancreatitis and would have to remain in hospital.  Apparently my pancreatitis was brought on by a stone from the my gall bladder blocking the duct to the pancreas.  After 12 days of nothing to eat or drink, two ambulance rides to Winnipeg for MRI’s I was finally released after almost 3 weeks.  I had gall bladder surgery in Winnipeg on September 9th.

The best outcome of all of this was that I suddenly began to loose weight, something that I thought was no longer possible.  At present I have lost 45 lbs. Mind you I have been following the pancreas diet published by the Mayo Clinic ever since my surgery.

I have been plagued by cataracts for some time.  Two and half years ago I was told that I would need to have them removed ASAP, especially the one in my right eye.  Well I finally got notification of my surgery date which is to happen in May.  A two and a half year wait is hardly considered an emergency but then what do I know.

The pain in my bones and muscles continues as does the dizziness.  It is so annoying to suddenly feel the loss of balance.  Luckily so far the falls have not done any permanent damage.

Well I shall get back to my reading.  Had a mammogram on Tuesday.  Stopped in at Chapters on the way home and was sorely tempted and could not resist buying too many books.  Oh well I shall have saved my sanity for another few weeks by keeping my nose in my new books.

mammogram

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June 13, 2014

It has been a long time since my last blog entry.   My only excuse is that I have had no motivation to write.   The fatigue has gotten worse again; I take two to three hour afternoon naps so that my evenings are not a total bust.  Oh to sleep eight hours a night.  My two to three hours of sleep at night are just not long enough.

This past spring I discovered You Tube and have spent many an hour watching an interesting mix of vidoes.  Some of the videos are beyond belief, obviously the work of some deranged human beings.

I have however been following this beautiful little 4 year old girl on You Tube. Vienna is adopted and in her case I believe the adoption will be a positive in her life. She has siblings but they are much older than Vienna and also adopted. I use to believe that adoption was always a wonderful option however I have changed my mind in the last few years. Adoptions can become very complicated when biological children and adopted children are part of the same family. Many adopted children who share a family with biological children spend most of their life trying to please.  (I know of what I speak; I am adopted.)

Two weeks ago I had an unexpected visit to the medical clinic.  My arm decided to rebel and the diagnosis was a rotator cuff injury.  For those of you who have never experienced this kind of injury and the pain that comes with it pray that you never will.  Thankfully the wait to see a doctor was only about 15 minutes.  While I was trying to explain my problem to the doctor I noticed that she was paying more attention to my neck than to what I was telling her.   She finally explained why she was so interested in my neck.  Apparently one side is larger than the other.  She ordered blood work and booked a neck and chest CT Scan with dye for June 25th.  It would truly be a miracle if the scan results would explain why I experience such weird symptoms.

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November 17, 2013

The older one gets the faster time goes by.   We had rain late last night and snow in the early morning hours.   This combination has made the roads rather treacherous.

At the end of June I received a letter from my family doctor informing me that he was quiting his medical practice to pursue other interests.  This information burdened me with additional stress I did not need.

I made a gross error at the last appointment with my now “gone bye bye” family doctor.  When asked if I would be willing to speak to a shrink to help me deal with some of the stressors in my life I stupidly agreed.  If only I had stuck to the promise I had made to myself never to trust a doctor with non medical information about myself.   No sooner had I agreed to see a shrink, my family doctor made an appointment for me with a “fake”.  My family doctor did give me an important piece of information about the “fake”.  The “fake” is not a qualified psychiatrist but a GP who is interested in the field of psychiatry and likes to play “the shrink”.   To add insult to injury I received a copy of a letter from the “fake” psychiatrist to my then family doctor  stating that he would not treat me as long as I was taking medication prescribed for me by my family doctor.

Be warned!  If your family doctor seeks non-medical information from you be careful what you share.  If your family doctor thinks that a visit to a  psychiatrist would benefit you make sure that you are being referred to a “real”  psychiatrist.

Nothing memorable happened during the months of July and August.  I spent the days in a never ending fight against overwhelming fatigue.  I spent the nights in a desperate struggle to try to get some sleep.  Several new symptoms cropped up this summer.  Peeling potatoes or carrots will bring about severe, painful cramps in my hands.   Wish I knew how to get rid of these cramps; they hurt every bit as much as cramps in my feet.

The first week in September I had my first appointment with my new family doctor.  Remembering some of the nasty experiences I have had during  searches  for a new family doctor I was stressed and anxious about this appointment.  (Since we were transferred 6 times I had to find a new family doctor in each of the 6 cities we lived in).   All my worry and stress were a waste of time.  My new family doctor is a lovely woman who takes time to listen

We celebrated Thanksgiving with a dinner at Maximes in Winnipeg.  Our daughter, grandson and grandson’s girlfriend joined us.  The dinner was lovely; a traditional roast turkey with mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing and veggies.  Later we had dessert at our house.

We celebrated our daughter’s birthday on November 11th; the Remembrance Day holiday.  Her birthday is actually on November 12th.  This time we had lunch at the Olive Garden.  Joining us besides our daughter were our grandson and his girlfriend.   Hard to believe that my little girl is now a middle aged woman.  Were does the time go?IMG_0209

 

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June 1,2013

Another article written by my daughter.  This one too has become a very popular read.  In my opinion this article could apply to other health issues such as chronic pain and chronic fatigue.

My daughter’s blog is located at http://mymentaltrampoline.com

Other Half – Spouses of Bipolar Sufferers

Spouses of bipolar sufferers often are the caretakers and caregivers of the relationship.  They are expected to hold everything together when emotional hurricanes hit their families.  They hang on in spite of everything that is flying around them just waiting for the calm.  Many people close to them expect them to be strong and almost heroically brave, when sadly they too have weaknesses and fears. So many people in their community are focused on the well-being of the bipolar person that they forget about the spouse.  It can be very difficult to be the other half of a partnership in which someone is chronically ill.  The spouse feels like all he/she ever does is put up and put out and that they never get anything back in return.  It can be emotionally and physically draining when your spouse is continually the one that is the focus of your combined attention.  The spouse often forgets to acknowledge his/her own needs and wants because their attention is so completely funneled to their partner.  They may long for someone they can confide in; someone to listen to their concerns.  Sometimes, the spouse can become resentful of the bipolar sufferer, and then, unfortunately the relationship hits the rocks.

 Not all relationships involving bipolar sufferers and their spouses are doomed to fail.  In fact I can think of at least three at this moment that are flourishing.  These relationships survive because the two people involved are fully aware of the illness they share.  That is right; share; they see their situation as a team effort.  They make every effort to learn about and understand this disease together.  They have established limitations and boundaries that must be respected in order for the relationship to exist and prosper.  Honesty and a willingness to be open about the issues involved with manic depression is vital.  And, most of all, they focus on the fact that they loved each other enough to commit to the relationship in the first place.  Why should that change now?  Keep that love in the forefront of your mind.

 As the spouse of a bipolar sufferer you may be be called on to do things you never thought you would ever have to do.  You feel the ups and downs almost as painfully as they do.  You are the one expected to be strong, take care of matters at hand, and then desperately try to steer your household back from the brink.  You are someone to be admired; you deserve admiration.  My husband is my hero.  Not just because he does heroic deeds once in awhile, but because he also shows me his tears.  We cry together sometimes.  He shares his fears with me and tells me his weaknesses.  It always amazes me that after all the Hell we may go through, he can still muster a smile and hold me tight in his big manly arms.  It feels good.  It also feels good to know that we are one in this big old mess of mental illness; not two alone in this freaky universe. 

Some Coping Techniques for Spouses of Bipolar Sufferers

  • You may dearly miss the person you fell in love with; keep in mind that with proper treatments and your support that person will come back to you.
  • Find your own therapist; you may need a professional to help guide you through the hard times.
  • Look for a support group for partners of bipolar sufferers.  If there isn’t one in your area consider starting one up.
  • Go with your spouse to a few of his/her therapy sessions and talk to their therapist.  Ask questions, listen to the therapist’s conclusions or views on your spouse’s care; try to be interactive in their care rather than inactive.  Don’t be overwhelming though.
  • Find time for yourself with such things as hobbies, walks, jogging, sports and writing.  Sometimes it helps to vent a bit of frustrated energy; you can go for a vigorous walk and clear your head.
  • When your partner is in a healthy mental state talk to them about your needs and hurts.  Don’t be confrontational; don’t blame, just gently tell them how you feel about things from your prospective.
  • Remind yourself continually throughout the day that there will be better times ahead.  Make it a mantra.
  • Allow yourself to reminisce about the good old times when you were both happy and give yourself hope that the good times will come again.  Look through photographs of better days, read old love letters and watch family videos.  Spend time with the kids talking about funny family stories.
  • Research and find reading material about mental illness.  Get to know what you and your spouse are battling against.
  • View your spouse’s illness as something you both have to fight as a team.
  • Help monitor your spouse’s medication so that you can be aware they are taking the prescribed medications or not.  You don’t have to be a nazi about it; just let them know you are keeping track.
  • If you have family spend time with them.
  • If your spouse is hospitalized ask family and friends to help out with the children, housework, cooking and even with visitation.  (Sometimes, for what ever reason, you just cannot get to the hospital.)  Ask for help; this is very important.
  • Treat yourself ever so often.  Allow yourself to sleep in one day a week or take a long hot bath.
  • Have a good cry once in a while; you don’t always have to be the strong one.
  • When your spouse is enjoying good mental health spend pleasurable time together.  Go on a date, spend time with the children, go for walks, etc.
  • Try not to take unpleasantness personally.  It is not your fault that your spouse is depressed or suicidal for that matter.  They may be emotional powder kegs ready to blow at any moment; irritable beyond belief; even spiteful.  You must remember that most of the time it is the illness talking, not them.  I know, this is easy to forget.
  • Learn to relax when you don’t have to be on guard.  If stress is physically manifesting itself as backaches, sore and stiff muscles, or general aches and pains, consider going to a massage therapist.
  • Let the people around you know when you are going through an especially trying time.  If possible, take some time off work.
  • Don’t argue with your spouse when they are in a deep depression or manic.  It is of no use.  They will not be able to see your point of view and it will just cause more tension for everyone.
  • If your spouse is hospitalized, talk to their nurses about their progress.  It is a great way for you to get daily updates on your spouse’s condition.
  • If it is hard for you to visit a hospital, ask if you can have an off ward pass for a few hours.  Take your spouse to a nearby park or restaurant and visit with them there.
  • Don’t have high expectations of someone in poor mental health.  You are setting yourself up for disappointment.
  • Do not turn to drugs or alcohol to take away your pain and frustrations.  You need to be strong for you and your spouse’s welfare.
  • Laughter is always good medicine.  Rent a few comedies one evening and invite a few good friends to come down and watch them with you. Laugh.
  • If you have become so resentful and angry at your spouse that you have begun to experience marital problems, consider visiting a marriage counselor when the spouse is mentally stable.
  • Don’t blame everything on your spouse; it is not their fault that they are ill.
  • Don’t blame everything on yourself; that is not fair.
  • Try to focus on what is best for both of you.
  • Don’t get muddled up with all that is wrong with your spouse, instead look for the person trapped deep inside; the one you dearly love.
  • Sit down and take stock of your life; what is important and what is not.
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