Another year has come and gone. It seems the older one gets the faster time goes by. I hope that you my readers have a wonderfully rewarding and blessed New Year. We celebrated our family Christmas on December 26th. My old bones betrayed me in the weeks before Christmas so I did little decorating this year. Put lights on an artificial plant in the living room, and put up a wreath on the front door and garage door. My grandson strung up the lights on the outside of the house and my husband put up the small tree with lights next to my parents’ headstone in the cemetery. It was six of us for Christmas Dinner which included our daughter and her partner, our grandson, and his partner. My husband tried a new technic this year by roasting the turkey the day before our Christmas meal. Once it had turned a golden brown he craved it up and it was ready to serve the next day. Just before our Christmas dinner he heated the sliced turkey in the microwave and made the gravy. The turkey turned out perfectly and retained a lot of moisture.
The weather here in southern Manitoba has played havoc with my poor joints and bones. The ever-changing temperatures and levels of high humidity during December made life rather miserable. It is hard to fight depression when the pain medication does not lessen the level of pain. I should clarify that pain medication never takes away all the pain. What it does is lessen the intensity of the pain so I can get out of bed in the morning and get on with my day. Enough moaning and complaining. I try to remind myself that there are people out there who suffer from illnesses much worse than mine.
Our son bought my husband and myself DNA kits from 23 and Me. He had purchased the Ancestry DNA kits for us several years ago. The Ancestry results proved to be very interesting especially for me. My husband comes from a large family who had documented their family history going back many generations. He did not have any real surprises pop up on his DNA profile. I however was adopted at the age of six months and had little knowledge of my ancestors. I had met my birth mom in 1986. By the time I contacted my birth father’s family he had passed away as a result of an accident. I had met my two half brothers and their families prior to submitting my DNA sample. After my sample was processed I met my half sister. My DNA profile listed not only my half sister but several first and second cousins from my birth mom and birth dad’s families. I had the privilege of meeting several of them in person. The 23 and Me report listed diseases and traits as part of my DNA profile. I was surprised at the accuracy of my health reports. A few of the health issues I might be susceptible to and listed by 23 and Me included Atrial fibrillation, Gall Stones, High Blood Pressure, Non Alcoholic Fatty Liver Disease, and Cilantro Taste Aversion. I already have all the above issues and quite a few more that I have not mentioned. I must say that I was surprised at the details available on 23 and Me. Of course I was given the names of more people whose DNA profiles matched closely with mine. I found the health information a very important segment of the 23 and Me report. Being adopted in 1948 the medical information that was noted on my adoption papers stated that there was no mental illness or veneral disease in my genetic family. I guess this was considered the most important medical information in 1948. I would love to hear from adoptees who are willing to share their adoption story on this site. Each adoption story is unique. Each meeting between adoptee and and birth mother or father is unique. Some experiences are lovely and move onto to a permanent relationship between adoptee and birth family. Some experiences are difficult and do not lead to a happy ever after. For me my relationship with my birth father’s family has been a very positive experience. I enjoyed the time I spent with my half brothers. I also enjoy the correspondence we share. My half sister and I chat at least once a week. It is amazing how many autoimmune diseases we have in common.
I wanted to share the following item written by Anthony Hopkins. I found it gave me a lot to think about and have hung a copy of it on my bulletin board in my den.
Wise words from Anthony Hopkins:
′′Let go of the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change.
Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, and mental and physical health.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest, and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten, or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.
That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.
The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option, or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you have to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, some people should not be in your life.
The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places, or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favors you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, and true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. The change will give you the love, esteem, happiness, and protection you deserve.
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Before I say goodnight I wanted to share an item that might make you laugh. We all need laughter in our lives.